I have enjoyed a little blogging hiatus, but am slowly getting back into the swing of things. School has started, and even though I am very, very busy, I must say that I truly enjoy the time I have to sit, catch up on old blogs, and blog myself. I was told by a therapist that blogging would be a very good outlet for me. She could not be any closer to the truth. I do enjoy it and it's better than journaling because I almost always get feedback! Yay! :)
Anyway, my good friend Christina gave me the idea to do a little "ask me anything" post. I say ALMOST anything jokingly. I really don't mind answering any questions. Now if we were having this conversation one on one, that may be a little different! But since I don't have to look you in the eye and admit how twisted and warped I truly am, I'm game for whatever! So, I digress...I have received several e-mails over the past few months about me, adoption, feelings, etc and I have happily answered them. However, I was thinking that this could be a great time to let everyone get in on a little therapy session. You never know when someone else may be wondering the answers to the very same question(s) you've asked, but didn't want to ask themselves. I want everyone to be heard. This journey pretty much sucks a large portion of the time, but if I can use my experience to help others I don't feel like the roller coaster of emotions ware all for nothing! :)
So...any burning questions out there???? If you could ask me any question, what would it be?Ask away, and in a day or two I'll gladly answer them the best that I can! Fire away...
If you could change anything that you have done with regard to reunion, what would it be and why?
ReplyDeleteMy daughter's birthday is Sat and she agreed that I could send her a gift. I sent her a really nice doll along with a toy car, because we joked about how I wouldn't send a car and she was like asking if I could try. She was joking. In the same box she will get a card that is a daughter card. Then, she will also get flowers with me and my sons signing it. This is the first birthday since I found her and we have yet to me. Do you think I over did it? Would you get mad if your birthmom claimed you as her daughter?
ReplyDeleteYay Jen! Thanks!! :o)
ReplyDeleteOk. i got 2...for now...lol
1) Do you mind being called an "Adoptee"?
i have trouble writing it...it sounds cold, but yet i don't know what else to write. Have you ever had any thoughts about it? I never actually called anyone an adoptee until i started blogging xox
2) And this is the Whopper XXOO ...
when it comes to talking about adoption with your birthmom...did she initiate the talking about the deep stuff or you?
If you did, would you have preferred that she did instead?
what did you want to know most from her?
is/was there monetary differences / social class differences between your first family and second family? What if any affect did that have on your comfort level ? was it awkward or important?
Gosh, jen, I could ask u questions till the cows come home!! I feel a lot of FB IM'ing coming on! LOL
XXOO
Mama K. :)
Hi Jenn,
ReplyDeleteI've been wondering if you have considered contacting your ndad? I know that you have seen him several times but never introduced yourself.
-Mia
Jen, have your parents met your mom? Had any communication with her (cards,letters)? Would you like them to be "friends", or would you rather keep them "separate"? How do your parents feel about meeting/communicating with her?
ReplyDeleteSusie
Do you think of your birth mother as an actual mother like you think of your amom or is the relationship different, more like good friends?
ReplyDeleteAlso, how soon were you ok with hearing that your birth mother loved you? As in her saying "I love you".